PROUST QUESTIONNAIRE w/ @ltoiaivao

I think I'm a Burr but I wish I were a Hamilton.
  1. 1.
    What is your idea of perfect happiness?
    Feeling loved and fulfilled
  2. 2.
    What is your greatest fear?
    Disappointing the people I love. That they'll reinstate debtor's prison just for me. That I'm not good enough.
  3. 3.
    What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
    Laziness. Hesitance.
  4. 4.
    What is the trait you most deplore in others?
    Selfishness, lack of empathy
  5. 5.
    Which living person do you most admire?
    Anyone truly selfless. That little Australian boy who just likes to make stuffed animals for sick kids.
  6. 6.
    What is your greatest extravagance?
    Wasting time
  7. 7.
    What is your current state of mind?
    Quietly ambitious. Contemplative.
  8. 8.
    What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
    Blind patriotism. Blind faith. Punctuality. Honor.
  9. 9.
    On what occasion do you lie?
    To myself, all the time. To others, when it's convenient and harmless.
  10. 10.
    What do you most dislike about your appearance?
    Big pores. Right boob.
  11. 11.
    Which living person do you most despise?
    Trump I guess
  12. 12.
    What is the quality you most like in a man?
    Kindness
  13. 13.
    What is the quality you most like in a woman?
    Gumption
  14. 14.
    Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
    "That's wild."
  15. 15.
    What or who is the greatest love of your life?
    Myself, hopefully.
  16. 16.
    When and where were you happiest?
    I think I was my happiest and my saddest during my four years at Stanford.
  17. 17.
    Which talent would you most like to have?
    Easy eloquence or dance
  18. 18.
    If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
    More boldness/grit
  19. 19.
    What do you consider your greatest achievement?
    Getting into/graduating from Stanford
  20. 20.
    If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what would it be?
    A cat in a cozy house with lots of sunbeams for napping.
  21. 21.
    Where would you most like to live?
    Somewhere green and temperate
  22. 22.
    What is your most treasured possession?
    Anything sentimental or given by family or friends. I am most reliant on my phone, but I don't treasure it. You can't treasure something that you could easily replace.
  23. 23.
    What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
    Hating yourself
  24. 24.
    What is your favorite occupation?
    Writing, reading, performing, singing
  25. 25.
    What is your most marked characteristic?
    Self-deprecation?
  26. 26.
    What do you most value in your friends?
    Their presence
  27. 27.
    Who are your favorite writers?
    Zadie Smith, Roxane Gay, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Jane Austen, Flannery O'Connor, Virginia Woolf, Gail Carson Levine, Phoebe Waller-Bridge, Lindy West, Ta-Nehisi Coates, Nikolai Gogol, Anton Chekhov
  28. 28.
    Who is your hero of fiction?
    Anne Shirley
  29. 29.
    Which historical figure do you most identify with?
    I identify with women from big families, women of mixed racial identity, women with complicated relationships to religion, women who write and think and make art. Hard to think of one who encompasses all of those things best.
  30. 30.
    Who are your heroes in real life?
    My mother, my grandmother, my sisters, Michelle Obama
  31. 31.
    What are your favorite names?
    I like unusual family names. I have maternal great uncles named Miller and Knight. My dad's step-grandfather's name was Loko Koa.
  32. 32.
    What is it that you most dislike?
    Anxiety?
  33. 33.
    What is your greatest regret?
    The three months I didn't talk to my parents when they found out I'd stopped going to church.
  34. 34.
    How would you like to die?
    Quickly, suddenly, peacefully.
  35. 35.
    What is your motto?
    Make it work