WHY I DID NOT CHANGE MY LAST NAME AFTER MARRIAGE
I'm sure there are more reasons that I forgot.
- •I like my last name!I don't dislike my husband's but it is harder to spell.
- •I was used to the idea of keeping it.In my senior year of high school (ugh I know), I was engaged to a dude with the same last name as me (no relation). And I kept thinking, "I'm so glad I don't have to change my name!"
- •Fuck the patriarchy! 👊🏻Yeah! Feminism!
- •All that paperwork.Too lazy.
- •Interrogated my reasons for wanting to change it and they were shit.1. I kind of wanted to when I was a kid (so what, things change). 2. I don't mind his last name (ok but I don't mind mine either). 3. What will people think (ugh, no). 4. What about if we have kids (this one is annoying. People say: won't it be confusing to your kids that their mom has a different last name? And no, kids are smart and can figure that shit out, plus who says I'm having them?).
- •Considered hyphenation but then it would be 18 letters long.Patterson-Bergemann. A bit much.
- •I've had this name for 27 years and I'm used to it.It's not like getting married changes who you are fundamentally (at least that is my opinion).
- •My husband didn't want me to.He said he didn't want to change his so why should I have to? ❤️❤️❤️
- •Refused to ditch my middle name or add another one.My middle name is Jean, my Grammy's name.
- •None of my friends did.So it felt more acceptable.
- •What I say to people who ask: typically I just pick one of they at random.My friends never asked, it's really only been coworkers who ask why. Family were a bit confused but accepting. I don't care if mail is addressed to Rachel and Jeff Bergemann or whatever ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but "Mrs. Jeff Bergemann" is pretty damn annoying.