18 things I've learned in 18 years

Only 18 but my mind is older.
  1. 1.
    Good communication is the key to a good relationship.
    And not just romantic relationships. Friendships. Relations between you and your roommates. Don't assume someone knows something if you didn't tell them that thing. They can't read your mind. Expecting them to know what to do is unrealistic.
  2. 2.
    Relax
    I struggle with anxiety so this is something I have to remind myself of daily. Since I've started college I've learned that there are things I could be doing 24/7 all the time. I am never caught up on work. I've also learned that I need to take at least an hour a day to chill out and one day a week to do absolutely nothing. It's not lazy if it keeps me from having an anxiety attack.
  3. 3.
    Stay vertical
    (This is also on my Best Advice I've Ever Received list) Stay upright. Nothing can be accomplished while laying down or napping or sulking. And, as a friend recently pointed out to me, we need to keep our thoughts vertical (aka, going up to God) and live our lives in a constant vertical connection to him.
  4. 4.
    Dress for you
    I am not a trendy person. I dress for comfort and in a way that reflects my personality. And it makes me happy.
  5. 5.
    Be real
    No one else has it figured out either. No one who genuinely matters in my life has ever hated me for voicing my feelings or acting like my genuine self. There are a lot of fake people in the world and a lot of people who are afraid of being themselves so people appreciate a person who is true to themselves more than you'd think.
  6. 6.
    Ask for advice
    From anyone from any walk of life at any time just ask for advice. Ask questions. Let other people help you. Have coaches in life.
  7. 7.
    Read your Bible
    My life was a disaster zone until I started growing in my relationship with Christ and that can't be done unless you read your Bible and....
  8. 8.
    Pray
    Pray in your car. Pray in the shower. Pray while your coffee is brewing. Pray while you brush your teeth. Pray at the bus station. Pray pray pray. All the time. Have a conversation with God like he's right next to you (because he is).
  9. 9.
    Listen to your parents
    Most parents actually know a thing or two about life and life is easier when you stop keeping so many secrets from your parents.
  10. 10.
    Don't worry about college
    From 7th grade up until freshman move in day - I LIVED for college. My 12 years of public schooling led up to these four years but you guys - life is full of second chances. Taking a gap year is ok. Not going to college is ok. Going and taking some time off and then going again is ok. Commuting is ok. As long as you are in a position in life where you are constantly learning it's ok. It really is.
  11. 11.
    Learn something
    I don't care if you go to college or not but don't get complacent with how much you know. Consume every bit of knowledge this world has to offer. Learn new words and read classic literature. Your brain will be happy.
  12. 12.
    Be a good friend
    We all need a good friend. Be that good friend.
  13. 13.
    Learn your Love Language
    There are a few quizzes online about Love Languages and I highly recommend finding what yours are. Knowing my Love Language has helped me in more relationships than I would care to admit. (PS - mine are physical touch and quality time)
  14. 14.
    Don't worry about having a significant other
    My belief is that you have to love yourself before you enter a relationship because 1) no one except you can change how you feel about you and 2) in the words of The Perks Of Being A Wallflower: "We accept the love we think we deserve". Plus, you're awesome the way you are. You're a whole, capable person and I believe in you. (And yes I'm single so I can say all this without being a jerk)
  15. 15.
    High school sucks
    Just know that it sucks for everyone and that you're definitely not alone.
  16. 16.
    Understand why
    Understand why people think the way they do. If you disagree with someone - don't argue. Ask them why.
  17. 17.
    Find your passion and follow it - even if it's crazy
    My passion is music. I have dreams of leading people in worship and producing my own praise music someday. No I don't know how that's going to fit into the context of me possibly being a wife and/or a mother but that's ok. God gave me this passion and is calling me to pursue it so I'm going all in.
  18. 18.
    And finally.... Showers can make most things better
    Feel sick? Take a shower. Stressed? Take a shower. Sad? Take a shower. Showers are the more proactive version of naps. The week I moved into college I took two showers a day because I was such an emotional wreck and it helped so so much.
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