As told by Isaac Hindin-Miller: The following list of Don’ts is the result of too many mistakes that I didn’t need to make. If followed, it’ll help you to get over your heartbreak in a far more timely manner than if you do the opposite. Trust me. I know what I’m talking about. Godspeed
- •HAVE SEX WITH YOUR EX. EVER AGAIN.Sex does not equal love. In this situation it’s like a drug that will make you feel like you’re together again for the moments it lasts, and then tear you apart when your ex gets out of bed and tells you, “I just don’t think it’s a good idea if I stay the night, you know? We are broken up, after all.”
- •Stalk or keep track of your ex’s movements.his includes talking to your mutual friends about what your ex has been up to, incessantly checking Instagram/Twitter/Facebook/Tumblr/Snapchat for clues, or “turning up” to places where you know your ex is going to be.
- •Try to be friends.I promise that you can be friends in the future but it takes a while to get there. Now is not the time.
- •Allow your ex to talk to you about new people he or she is seeing, or problems, fears, aspirations, hopes, dreams, failures, or triumphs.You’re not together anymore — it’s not your job or duty to listen to this stuff anymore.
- •Drunk dial.Put down the phone.
- •Try and compete with your ex by hooking up with other people in an attempt to cause jealousy.This especially applies to your ex’s friends. Even if you succeed in making your ex jealous and he or she comes crawling back, you’re both still the same people and the same issues will crop up all over again.
- •Meet up for coffee, even if your ex is the instigator.
- •Talk about your breakup or heartbreak all day, errrry day with your friends.They’ll get over it really quickly and you’ll end up being kinda boring to be around. That’s what therapists, sisters, mothers and bloggers you’ve never met before are for. (Hello, new friend!)
- •Think that there’s anything wrong with you. Because there’s not.The honest truth is that your relationship didn’t work out. You weren’t right for your ex, and your ex wasn’t right for you. I know your self-esteem has just taken a gigantic beating, but it doesn’t say anything about you as a human being — it is what it is. And “it” happens to us all. Breakups are incredibly hurtful and painful and devastating and sad, but they’re a part of life. This experience will make you a stronger person in the end; it’s just gonna take you a bit of time to get there.