LEARNED THE HARD WAY
Mental health notes from someone who thought she was mentally healthy:
- •It's never too late to create a problemEven if you are okay at relationships/managing feelings/communication, in an effort to connect with someone who communicates differently, you can flounder around and develop new negative emotional habits that were never a problem for you before.
- •Brainwashing is a double-edged swordI always sort of prided myself on controlling my thoughts and attitudes, and felt that most unhappy people were failing to guide their mind appropriately. Possibly some truth there, but then I became unhappy too because I never let myself think an unhappy thought and so I pushed back all my negative feelings and never processed them until they became a brimming undercurrent of instability. Pride comes before a fall.
- •When you are trying to show unflappable grace and respect to others, sometimes you are actually a doormatThat's basically the whole idea.
- •When you are trying to be an ethical pillar and advocate, you are also putting a target on your backIt kills my insides a little when people say to just keep your head down, but if you get hit over it enough times you start to shut the f up.