PLEASE, DO NOT PITY ME

  1. Please do not pity me when I say that I've never had a boyfriend.
    No, there is nothing wrong with me. (And for the record, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you either). I have dated my share of guys before and even though I may seem reserved, I know that I am capable of finding dates all on my own.
  2. I do not want anyone to feel sympathy towards me for never being in love.
    And I agree; it's a beautiful, beautiful thing. Something that cannot be described with just words. But before I feel capable of selflessly loving another human being, I'm focused on fulfilling and accomplishing my ambitions independently as my highest priority.
  3. I was once told that my actions could be misconstrued as emasculating (for walking in front of my date at a restaurant), which really caught me off-guard.
    I don't do this intentionally; I just tend to do my own thing. There are people out there who are able to mirror my pace, both figuratively and literally, without me having to adjust myself at a conscious level. So keep up! I will not wait up for you.
  4. This is a critical point in my life where I am becoming and shaping more into myself.
    Most of us will change over the years because our viewpoints and aspirations will change and therefore, the compatibility I had with someone in the past may not be as fitting down the line as it was before.
  5. We have our whole lives to find the right someone.
    Granted, I don't attract as many men or date as often as the average person, but there's no need to rush into things if it feels forced. The beauty in finding someone is so serendipitous. I strongly believe that things happen when the universe feels a person is ready.
  6. I am who I am and I have finally found internal happiness after years of self-reflection; yet, I sense that people feel sorry for me because they think I am "missing" something in my life.
    This happens with both men and women alike. The topic has been brought up working with a team full of women and working with a team with all men.
  7. So it was puzzling to me when a person I worked with told me, "you're too pretty to be single."
    I understand that she was saying this coming from a good place but who is to say that partnership is only reserved for attractive people? Are societally-unaccepted forms of beauty less deserving of being desired? (I'm reading too much into it, but it's always the first thought that pops into my head). Love is so much more profound than just being purely physically attractive.
  8. There are two factors that play into the equation: compatibility and timing.
    Majority of the time, it's inopportune timing. Faced with the path of choosing our careers over each other, as it left little room for much else. You may not agree with my compartmentalization, but sometimes letting go of the person you deeply care about is the best thing you can do for him/her. Sadly, by helping them realize their true potential, it's sometimes better off without you in it. I'm content resuming the dating scene later in life when both parties are ready to pursue companionship.
  9. To conclude: yes, I don't share my life with anyone but that doesn't make me any less of a living, breathing person nor does it make my life any less fulfilling.
  10. So please, from the bottom of my heart... do not pity me