What happens when you use your non-social justice platform to say BLACK LIVES MATTER

My husband and I have a blog & podcast called #staymarried. We focus on helping people have healthy relationships and get the most out of their marriages. Yesterday I couldn't.
  1. I started by posting this from my personal IG
  2. with this caption...
  3. Then, recognizing our MUCH larger audience (8,484 at the beginning of the day) I reposted on our #staymarried IG account.
  4. I kid you NOT, this was the FIRST comment
  5. I was honestly shocked. Honestly. WHY do WHITE PEOPLE keep doing that!?!
  6. So, I got snippy...
    In light of the news out of Dallas, I now regret using the phrase "picked off," but let's continue...
  7. Then, when that attempt to derail me did not succeed, another lady tried to help me remember what I'm supposed to be talking about on #staymarried...
  8. It's tough to #staymarried when you're being killed, Amiright?
  9. So, after two failed attempts to get me to SHUSH, white ladies started commenting with their rage and threats to unfollow me.
    UNFOLLOW ME!?!? BUT WHY!?!? 😭😭😭😭😭
  10. So, I apologized and promised to behave and begged them to stay...
  11. Then there were SO MANY ANGRY WHITE PEOPLE COMMENTING.
    They think I hate cops. They called me racist. They called me ignorant. They unfollowed.
  12. Then, my actual husband commented and made me cry, followed by this guy who gets me, followed by this girl who knows me in real life.
  13. Then another IRL friend stepped in...
  14. Then my editor - who knows me almost as well as my husband - chimed in...
  15. Didn't matter. People continued to comment with hate and continued to unfollow.
    And I grieved harder and harder with each comment because they were each reminders that things are getting worse, not better.
  16. I lost 54 followers yesterday for saying BLACK LIVES MATTER.
    But, I got to keep my life and grieve in my home with my husband as the news got worse and worse. I got to hear from black people who felt loved and supported. I got to use my voice according to my convictions. So, I'll keep saying...
  17. BLACK LIVES MATTER
    because they do.