REASONS BEING SET UP MAKES ME WANT TO BE SINGLE FOREVER

  1. It's true. When you tell me I should date so and so, I die a little more every time.
    I know there is nothing wrong with me, but every time a person makes a comment or tries to set me up with someone, I feel like they think there is something wrong with me. That sends me into a spiral in which I question whether there really is something wrong with me. This list is probably an attempt to pull myself out of one of these spirals.
  2. It's mortifying.
    I know. I'm socially awkward. I'm 25 and I've never had a boyfriend. I wonder what's wrong with me also. Pointing out that I'm single and have no hope of changing that is NOT helpful, it makes me feel like a failure.
  3. It's rude.
    A coworker told me that if her son was single, she would set me up with him. This is weird. Then, she told me I should date a fireman. Her reasoning if that she cannot help being a mother... She is not my mother, I have a mother. My mother has never tried to set me up because she respects me and respects that I will make the right decision for me.
  4. It's none of your damn business.
  5. I don't need a boyfriend.
    It's 2015. Really guys, I don't need a boyfriend. I have a job. It doesn't pay great, but I can almost afford a nice apartment, student loans and a car payment. I do not need or want anyone to take care of me. You assume I need a man.
  6. My students think I need a boyfriend.
    My eighth graders honestly don't understand how I can be 25 and not married with babies--plural. I hope that I can be a role model to them because I know it hurts them every time they date someone they don't like. My students think they have to be in a relationship, and it isn't true. It I isn't true for them, and it is t true for me.
  7. Dating sounds exhausting.
    I'm a second year teacher. It's exhausting and after work, I really just want to lay on the couch, eat ice cream, and watch Gilmore Girls and Property Brothers.
  8. I am an introvert.
    Related to the last note, I am not comfortable with strangers. Small talk is the most draining thing for me.
  9. Putting yourself out there is hard.
    It is difficult to put yourself out there to be judged and ridiculed. Dating apps make it even more uncomfortable because it is so superficial. Who would want to be judged by your pictures? No matter if you are a 10, people will judge you and find flaws because that is what people do.
  10. There are so many assumptions made in a set up.
    You assume that a certain type of person is who I will be attracted to. It's very heteronormative and benefits able-bodies generic white men. At least, that has been my experience. Why if I'm gay and you assume? What if I don't want to date someone who looks just like me? (The idea of dating someone that looks like me actually makes me physically sick) I'm not sure where I was going with this one, but I know it's true.
  11. I'm ranting, but I am sick of it.
    It is 2015, there is arching called feminism, I have a job, I have a few good friends, I do fun things, I have a roommate that cooks for me, and I am happy. I know I'm great and any guy would be lucky to have me, but j don't need to get into bed with the first guy I meet because I'm 25 and single. Someday maybe I will find the right guy and settle down, but, hey, maybe I won't and that's okay too.
  12. I just want to say, that this list has been a bit of a struggle for me.
    Often, my first instinct is to put myself down. I'm not cute enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm not funny enough. Why would any guy want to date me? Is the fact that I have poor self esteem the whole reason guys find me undesirable? This is what runs through my brain constantly, and I mostly know it is t true. I am cute, I am smart, I am funny, and I am so many more positive qualities. I am adding a picture to prove it. Seriously, I have a dress made out of gold tinsel! Such a catch!