How to Be Better at Relationships

  1. 1.
    Listen
    The next time you find yourself in a long conversation make sure that you aren't dominating it. Notice and be aware of the flow of the conversation. Make sure to ask the other person about themselves or their lives- and genuinely listen. We all know that person who only wants to talk about themselves and when it is your chance to speak they are blatantly uninterested. Not endearing.
  2. 2.
    Be easy mannered
    People like to be around people that are easy going and don't stress them out. People do not like having to exert great amounts of energy just to be in your presence. Obviously this will always be situation-dependent but try to go with the flow as much as you can. You can be both agreeable and assertive without being aggressive or argumentative.
  3. 3.
    Manage strong emotions
    We are all guilty of letting our emotions get the best of us. In relationships (especially close relationships) we often act "crazy" when we are angry, afraid, or sad. At the bottom of all of this we are just trying to get our needs met. Try to think about what is upsetting you and figure out if there is a way to get what you want/need in a reasonable way without freaking out. You should find that the response you get from the other person is much healthier, and satisfying.
  4. 4.
    Don't assume you know what someone is thinking
    This is biased by our own feelings and beliefs. You cannot be in someone's head. There are multiple explanations for other people's behavior- do not over-react and jump to conclusions before you ask them what they are thinking.