Tell Yourself the Story Where You Get What You Want in the End

  1. I believe that one of the most important things you can do for yourself is put your experiences back out into the world. Writing does something special magic sobering — it takes your thoughts (which exist only in your mind, your inner world), and tethers them to something permanent. Gives them heft and sends them back deep down into your soul.
  2. As someone with anxiety, I know that thoughts can take on strength. Can twist and warp themselves until they block out anything good or hopeful. They can leave you without the slightest shred of hope. And the scariest part was I didn’t know it while it was happening. I didn’t know.
  3. When you close yourself off, you become small. When you fold in, when you become silent, you are without hope. But something happened when I wrote my thoughts down.
  4. Slowly, I began to see them for what they really were. Fears I had, deeply rooted doubts I held about myself and falsehoods I’d turned into self-mantras.
  5. Now more than ever I feel the importance of the following statement: you never know someone else's struggle and so you must always strive to act with kindness and empathy. We will, all of us, face great difficulties in this life. No one survives unscathed and in the midst of living, we are here dying.
  6. Don't add to someone else's burden. Not knowing they had a secret struggle will not excuse you.
  7. Your story is yours. Don’t wait for someone else to give you the words.
  8. But know that everyone has a story. And you are not allowed to tell others' for them.
  9. I think that's what we're doing here on li.st. Telling our stories.