A LETTER TO EMILY

  1. Emily,
  2. I am writing you this letter because I don't want you to twist my words in order to make yourself look better.
  3. I have my own copy, just in case.
  4. I have recently been made aware of some things you've been saying about me.
  5. If you'll remember, when I first began this job, I didn't use my cell phone during the day except on my break.
  6. As I adjusted to my position, I noticed that you *did* use your phone.
  7. I didn't judge you, just observed.
  8. I started using my phone during the day.
  9. When you saw me using it, you told me you didn't care if I did that.
  10. You told me to just be careful not to let the girls down the hall see my phone, because they would "tell on me."
  11. You mentioned MULTIPLE TIMES that it was alright, you didn't care, and as you are the lead teacher in our room I trusted you and went by your words.
  12. Sarah has told me the truth.
  13. That once I leave in the afternoon you gripe about me to her, instead of just telling me.
  14. I asked Leslie about it, and she told me you'd talked to her as well, on more than one occasion, and she'd told you to talk to me.
  15. Emily, why on earth would you talk to our co-worker and OUR BOSS and refuse tell to me?!
  16. Do you not get how lucky it is that Leslie knows me well enough to know that I'm a good worker?
  17. This could have had real repercussions.
  18. I don't know why you feel like it's better for you to just talk trash about people instead of telling them the problem TO THEIR FACE.
  19. Because guess what?
  20. When Sarah had the wherewithal to tell me the truth, I stopped using my phone.
  21. I wasn't angry with her.
  22. I was mortified that I'd been breaking the rules.
  23. Rules I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW ABOUT because YOU lied to me.
  24. Emily, do you think I have no problems with things you do?
  25. WRONG.
  26. But I've kept them to myself in the name of "politeness."
  27. And I did NOT go bitch about you behind your back.
  28. I just ask--no, EXPECT--the same courtesy.
  29. If you have a problem with something I do, tell ME, not everyone else--they can't fix it.
  30. Confrontation sucks, but you know that sucks worse?
  31. Acting like everything is fine to my face and talking crap about me behind my back.
  32. Because you've destroyed my ability to trust anything you say.
  33. And if that seems juvenile to you,
  34. So does acting like Regina George.
  35. Katherine
  36. P.S.-- Don't get any bright ideas about snitching on me for using my phone to write this: I'm on my lunch break.