...the institution of marriage.
- •What should marriage mean to a modern, not-religious community? Or should we just bail on it entirely?
- •Isn't presuming that you're going to be in one monogamous relationship for ~70% of your life a little out-dated?+1 for a "dated" pun
- •Not to mention the direct connection between marriage as a concept and idea that a woman belongs to her father then belongs to her husband.
- •Which like, blech. That's some patriarchal bullshit, obvs.
- •Which gets into the whole last name question, a sidebar for another list.
- •I know that socio-politically I believe that we should divorce the institution of marriage from the legal rights of consenting adults to like, share health insurance, pay taxes as a unit, etc.+1 "divorce" pun
- •I don't like living in a society where we compel people to get married in order to commit to raising a kid with someone or to buy a house or whatever.
- •(Shout out to the podcast "Sex for Smart People" for opening my eyes to that a year or two ago.)Those people should be Listing.
- •I see the spiritual appeal of gathering your community in one physical space to witness you making a commitment to someone you love.
- •And I see the appeal of a big party afterwards, where you basically get to dedicate a whole happy event to how awesome it is that you found each other.
- •And someone might buy you a KitchenAid stand-up mixer.
- •And afterwards, you have this societally-approved marker of how much you mean to one another. Which is awesome.
- •And maybe you feel different, I don't know.
- •Anyway, I've been thinking about this. I might interview some married people and see what they say.
- •A lot of people-- including many smart, lovely, feminists-- are married and are really into it, so there's something going on there.