HOW TO HANDLE CRYING CO-WORKERS
Just follow this one weird trick: treat them like normal human beings. http://slate.me/1pJ3zMo
- •After a @nytimes exposé on harsh working conditions at Amazon, crying in the workplace has become a contentious issue.The story’s most notable quotation came from book marketer Beth Olson, who worked for two years at Amazon.
- •“Nearly every person I worked with, I saw cry at their desk.”
- •Many took this to mean Amazon’s internal culture was degrading and inhumane.
- •A recent article from Olga Khazan of The Atlantic argues that the stigma of crying can be linked to sexism.
- •Khazan says women naturally cry more often than men due to hormonal differences, and that “[m]en have larger tear ducts, so more of their tears can well in their eyes without spilling onto their cheeks."She argues crying should be normalized in the office to promote equality.
- •She suggests a two-step process: not punishing it, and responding kindly.But because people cry for many different reasons, adaptable responses are needed.
- •Sometimes, a crying person may not wish to talk.In these situations, try sending a message or text — it’s a low-pressure way to encourage the person to reach out when he’s ready.
- •Or she might just need a friendly gesture, like an invitation to happy hour or a quick chat.
- •There’s no way to know exactly why the person is crying, and guessing at reasons is counter-productive.If you have a compassionate mindset, everyone benefits: you don’t feel frustrated, and the crying person doesn’t feel embarrassed.
- •And if you happen to find yourself crying one day, remember that it’s a completely normal human reaction to certain stimuli.