MARRIAGE ADVICE FROM PEOPLE THAT ARE MARRIED

What's the best marriage advice you received or what wisdom can you share?
  1. Marry someone you wouldn't mind being divorced to.
    Suggested by   @shanaz
  2. Marry your best friend, and never stop dating each other.
    Suggested by   @noraesabia
  3. If one of you eats garlic, you both eat garlic.
    Suggested by   @Egghead
  4. Having the same sense of humor makes good times awesome & the awful times doable
    Suggested by   @ameliaville
  5. Kinda cringe-y, but that "5 love languages" stuff is true. I'm all about those Acts of Service and my husband is straight Words of Affirmation. If we don't make a conscious effort to speak the other's language...it's like we're speaking 2 different languages. Don't bother reading the book, just take the quiz. (7 years married, 12 years together)
    Suggested by   @oliviapetzy
  6. Giving gifts outside of traditional gift giving times is always better
    Suggested by   @whereandy
  7. marriage isn't happening to you, you're building it every day. invest the good you're hoping for.
    Suggested by   @lucas
  8. Never go to bed mad (I don't always listen to this one although it's good advice) and avoid king size beds.
    Suggested by   @andlamb
  9. I've been married for like a month BUT in a committed relationship for 5 years and it's honestly all about not taking one another for granted. Say thank you and be grateful for each other always
    Suggested by   @jennifer1482
  10. Don't co-sleep with your kids
    Or if you insist on it, have a separate designated nooky space to ensure sex still happens
    Suggested by   @dreadpiratemama
  11. Encourage and support each other's passions even if it means less time together. Also making fun of each other works for us. So maybe don't listen to my advice but 12 years strong.
    Suggested by   @scallnan
  12. It's a partnership. Work together and think of each other when you make decisions.
    Suggested by   @hillary79
  13. First marry your best friend. Next, agree to commit completely to your vows. Never ever cheat. Don't spend too much time apart. And keep your intimacy (both physical and non-physical) between just the two of you. I am married 34 years and we still love each other. 😘❤️💐
    Suggested by   @Heartsounds
  14. actively try to make each other's lives easier every day
    ❤️❤️❤️ my rule of thumb
    Suggested by   @boygirlparty
  15. Make sure you think about the commitment the same way / are going to do the same amount of work in its service. Become a "first-rate noticer" of your spouse - if you keep seeing them as an individual in the world totally irrespective, they're fascinating forever. Share most of your life, but not all - your own interests keep you interesting / whole
    Suggested by   @rhoyourboat
  16. Treat it like a competition. Play to win.
    Suggested by   @skipeverett
  17. Be ready for everyone to give you suggestions on how to be happy in a marriage
    Suggested by   @MindinMotion
  18. Pick your battles. And compromise. And each of you have separate interests but also have things you both love to do together. Respect and listen to each other. Married 52 years. Dated 6 before that
    Suggested by   @granoni
  19. Marry a handsome Frenchman.
    Worked for me.
    Suggested by   @anacrookston
  20. When your spouse does something that annoys you or that you just don't understand, just relax and tell yourself: they're doing their best. It's a two way street which means they'll give you the same presumption too. Try this, it works!
    Suggested by   @Ranselaer
  21. If you disagree about something make sure you sit down and discuss it until all the points have been talked about (you don't have to end up with the same thoughts.) Don't avoid this communication or it'll build up to a breakdown one day.
    Suggested by   @russiamussia
  22. Never keep score with your spouse! Do things for each other because you love them. Not because it will better your own interests!
    Suggested by   @mtreckna
  23. Laugh together. Everyday.
    Suggested by   @vtstreet
  24. When he peels off his socks and leaves them on the living room floor ...for three days ...until there's three pairs of dirty socks, in that one spot, there... push them over to him while he's sitting there, 'til they're touching his feet again.
    And then laugh together. Because you're not fucking perfect, either.
    Suggested by   @girltype