Amy Poehler explained time travel in her book 'Yes Please." She said, "That is the key to time travel. You can only move if you are actually in the moment. You have to be where you are to get where you need to go."
  1. My dad died in September 2014.
  2. We kids found out he had cancer on a Tuesday.
  3. He had a PET scan two days later and a consult scheduled to discuss the results the following Tuesday at noon.
  4. He died 8 hours before his consult—
  5. ten days before my sister turned 40.
  6. We spent a week in Florida for his funeral and barely missed her birthday.
  7. When my dad turned 40, we had a big family barbecue for him.
  8. My mom, sister, and I changed the words to "Always Something There to Remind Me" by Naked Eyes to make it about my dad.
  9. "How can I forget you, Dad, when there is always something there to remind me?"
  10. We pretended to crack our necks and drink Pepsi.
  11. We sang it to him at the barbecue.
  12. I had just turned 11 and my sister, Amy, was almost 10.
  13. The night of Amy's 40th birthday, her girlfriends threw her a party that I hated to miss.
  14. Cory and I planned to cook some steaks and have an evening in while our kids were at a friend's house.
  15. My friend had raved about a butcher shop that was part of a gas station and in the middle of nowhere.
  16. We decided to get our steaks from the gas-station butcher shop.
  17. While we waited for our steaks, a radio station played through the overhead speakers.
  18. On Amy's 40th birthday, in an obscure place I had never before been, the song "Always Something There to Remind Me" started playing.
  19. I froze.
  20. I called my sister and cried.
  21. My dad, who had barely passed away, somehow connected the three of us through a mostly forgotten 80s song (it was 2014!!!) in a gas-station butcher shop.
  22. We were connected ON HER 40TH BIRTHDAY with the song we sang to him ON HIS 40TH BIRTHDAY.
  23. Those two moments felt linked, forged, fused. Powerfully and unmistakably.
  24. I traveled through time—with love for the dad I was grieving and an ache for the sister I wished to celebrate—to stand in a place where I could fully be present in both places.
  25. I don't know what cosmic forces caused the radio station to choose that old song—
  26. and the butcher shop to choose that particular station—
  27. and for us to choose that day to try out the gas-station butcher shop—
  28. and to be in that place for the precise few minutes that the song would be playing—
  29. and that it was exactly Amy's 40th birthday during her actual party—
  30. but I know it all came together for that moment.
  31. I didn't need a DeLorean, just an 80s song and a gas-station butcher shop.