Ask yourself these questions. From Brené Brown
  1. Why am I sharing this?
  2. What outcome am I hoping for?
  3. What emotions am I experiencing?
  4. Do my intentions align with my values?
  5. Is there an outcome, response, or lack of response that will hurt my feelings?
  6. Is this sharing in the service of connection?
  7. Am I genuinely asking the people in my life for what I need?
  8. What need is driving this behavior?
  9. Am I trying to reach, hurt, or connect with someone, and is this the right way to do it?