HOW TO NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU πŸ’

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    Affirm your worth.
    There is a simple exercise you can do that has been proven surprisingly effective in psychological studies: 1) Make a short list that covers general areas of your life that include you as an important element. 2) Pick one category on your list that you have always been especially proud of. Write about it. 3) Write your chosen category at the top of another piece of paper, and then write about one particular time or instance when it was important to you, and why it was important.
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    Center yourself.
    More than just a one-time step, centering yourself is an ongoing process that yields consistent benefits. Exactly what it means to center yourself varies slightly depending on who you ask, but the general consensus is that it means refocusing your priorities to be more in line with your personal beliefs.
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    Track your achievements.
    Make a small journal and write down everything you did at the end of each day before you go to sleep, including meditations.
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    Practice saying no.
    Now that you are taking steps to affirm and nurture yourself, it's time to translate those good feelings into action. Be civil, but be firm. Enjoy the results. Don't sweat excuses - you don't need an excuse to say no. Feel free to explain yourself.
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    Bring your new attitude into your whole life.
    You've rediscovered things about yourself that you can be proud of, lessened the influence that the opinions of others have on your self-image, found time to track your achievements and center yourself every day, and learned that you can say no without dire consequences. You're ready to truly be yourself with everyone around you! More tips for specific situations below.
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    Situation: DEALING WITH PEERS
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    Don't be shy to show who you are.
    You might be surprised by the positive reaction you'll get when you say what's on your mind and act according to your beliefs. People like people who do their own thing and go their own way.
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    Control your social environment.
    Work to surround yourself with people who accept you.
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    Situation: DEALING WITH RELATIVES
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    Support yourself.
    Take extra time to practice feeling good. You are who you are and that's okay.
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    Talk to your family.
    This is your family – you can't choose them, for better or worse. While there are times it is prudent to say nothing, the root of the problem will have to be addressed at some point.
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    Practice diplomacy.
    When there's no other choice, the fine art of saying nothing at all is quite useful in dealing with the opinions of family members who won't stop hurting your feelings.
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    Situation: FOR THE WORKPLACE
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    Don't take β€œnot caring” too far.
    Like it or not, a big part of keeping your job and making a good impression at work boils down to caring what others – particularly your bosses and your customers – think of you.
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    Continue to set boundaries, but do it appropriately.
    Caring less about what others think of you doesn't always translate to doing and saying whatever you want, especially on the job. Instead, channel the part of yourself that politely and thoughtfully has different ideas and approaches.
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    Learn the principles of customer service.
    These are not very difficult to understand, but internalizing them can take time. By embodying them, you will learn to separate your emotions from the work you do, making it easier to worry less about what the people around you think of you.